How to raise your children properly, bearing in mind that each child has their own story, and each parent is an individual teacher. The theory of proper upbringing of children is increasingly relevant in society, but we must take into account that what is valid in theory does not necessarily apply in practice.
From the earliest days, children observe and copy everything their parents or guardians do, both good and bad things, like sponges. Imitation of parents is present from the very beginning of growing up, children absorb by following their every move, every word, and in the end consciously or unconsciously become a projection, i.e. a mirror of their parents.
It is up to the parents to pay attention and control their way of expression and behavior so that in the future the child will be recognized as being good and the parents as good examples
Raising children has never been a one-way street. That is why it is extremely important that parents first of all dedicate themselves to solving their problems and doubts, so that in the future they don't ascribe them to their child as innate. They are responsible for the child's view of the world, the very state of consciousness, the choice of society, decision-making, his feelings and much more, shaping and preparing him for further life without them.
It is very important to pay attention to the marketed content to which the child is exposed. Bad patterns of behavior and bad habits can have serious consequences, and subsequent corrections in upbringing are very difficult to implement if the child has acquired "innate" bad patterns of behavior. Although most parents are aware of what kind of behavior is correct, it is not out of place to single out some that should be avoided in a wide circle in front of children. Among them we single out swearing, derogatory words in communication with the environment, insults, engaging in thoughtless discussions, cheating, lying, lack of respect, etc. Children reproduce everything that is presented to them.
The manner and lifestyle of the parents also influences and shapes the personality of your child, from the content you follow through the media, the books you read, the music you listen to, whether you are an athlete or enjoy lounging, communicative and open, or the type of parent who mourns all his life by belittling himself and his life. A child from the family in which he grows up adopts relationships and values, adopting every form of behavior. Do not "teach" children your fears or burden them with your expectations. Do not project your dissatisfactions, unfulfilled wishes on to them. The reflection of dysfunctional relationships in the family can be recognized based on the inadequate behavior of children.
Educators, teachers also have a big part in the education of your children because, in addition to knowledge, they provide examples and models of behavior. Of course parents are there, as an indispensable part for further necessary corrections. It is necessary that you recognize the need on your child's face, to teach him the right values, shaping him into a quality person.
Education can and remains only a wish list if there is no synchronization of words and actions. Every child's behavior is a reflection of you. No child is born as a bad person, but can becomes one by growing up in the environment and circumstances that make him that way. It is up to the children to test the boundaries, to move them if necessary, and it is up to the parents to clearly define them
Parents must be a team when it comes to raising their child, because the child's attitude towards the parents decisions depends on it in the future. There must be tenderness and indulgence, but in moderation, because all the care and efforts invested, without the necessary preparation for the cruelty of growing up, unwavering honesty and well-intentioned criticism fall into the water. In order to harden, strengthen character, willpower, learn to respect and be respected, boundaries and models of behavior must be set.
It is not easy for parents because they are aware that every decision or choice can be a double-edged sword, that children should see role models, support, friends, but also teachers and authority in them. That is why there are countless problems, vicissitudes and extremes.
There are also those kind of parents who try to make up for the lack of attention or time by buying expensive, worthless pieces of clothes or cold, faceless dolls, or others, who are always dissatisfied with their own life, the results they have achieved. Healing the frustrations on their children, their little ones who are students of the generation, winners of various recognitions, awards, diplomas become and remain deeply unhappy, because even after all their achievements, they will be deprived of a warm hug and a kind word, and perhaps look for the culprit in themselves, not realizing that the source of the problem is egocentric parents who attributed all the credit for the child's success exclusively to themselves.